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Relationship goals for gay couples
What are your goals as a gay couple? Have designer dogs, bet on the winning queen at the Drag Race, jet set or more? We think it’s the latter, and here’s why. While you’re here and want more in life, grab your free copy 5 building blocks for a happy gay life.
Why money needs to be included in your list of goals for gay couples
A major reason gay couples divorce, similar to straight couples, and why gay people are unhappy is financial stress and insecurity. So have a healthy, happy relationship and truly live an amazing life Also means talking about your money together and managing it (better). Studies show – and we confess anecdotally – that gay couples who talk about their money have better sex lives.
Reason enough to talk about your money together. Right?!
Top 10 Gay Relationship Goals to Achieve in 2021:
1. Buy a house together
Having your own place creates a feeling of togetherness as a couple. It’s a tangible goal and gives you all sorts of things to call “ours.” Plus, you get the benefits of a combined budget instead of living separately – more on that below. If you think owning a home will leave you poor, think again. There are several steps gay couples can take over a period of one to five years to become perfect candidates for home ownership.
2. Pay off our credit card debt
Did you know that 56% of the queer community worries about money every week? We’re the Debt Free Guys, so it goes without saying that we say, “Get debt free.” Right? Additionally, paying off credit card debt is key to some of the other gay couple goals on this list.
This emotional stress can sabotage a relationship and age you indecently. Paying off high-interest credit card debt will save you and your husband money, improve your credit scores, and help you sleep better together at night. By paying off our debt we were able to travel to Australia, New Zealand, Spain, France, England and many more places.
Using our unique debt lasso method, we paid off $51,000 in credit card debt in two and a half years. It’s faster and saves you more money than the Snowball or Avalanche method.
3. Adopt children together
There are over 1.5 million children in the foster care system, 1.5 million children who would also like to have two fathers like you love them. Expand your family and save a child from a system that sends them from one home to another (up to nine times before they are finally adopted or removed from the system). Only about 20% of LGBTQ people have children, although any gay couple with children will tell you that it is one of the best goals they have ever achieved.
4. Get to know transgender people in our community
Thanks to many of our allies, the Ls, Gs, and Bs of our community are feeling much more comfortable outside. This is because they viewed us as their friends, neighbors and family. Transgender people are still looking for the same acceptance and love. One way to support them as gay couples is to get to know more trans people in our local and wider community. This gay couple’s goal is to enrich lives and spread love.
5. Say “I love you” every day.
The 3 little words every single guy or girl wants to hear. It’s the stuff of romantic comedies and storybooks. Don’t forget to say “I love you” to each other every day.
Love is one of the five building blocks to a truly happy, healthy and prosperous gay life. Get your free copy 5 building blocks for a happy gay life Here.
6. Explore the world together
Oh, the gays and our journey. A recent Grindr survey found that we spend more than 10% of our annual income on travel. 10%! But no shame. More travel is part of it our 3 relationship goals (along with saving for a fantastic retirement and giving back). So go out, have fun and see the world – just do it smartly. By strategically using travel rewards credit cards and paying off your balance every month – every . . . single. . . Every month you can get lots of free trips by using your travel rewards credit cards on everyday purchases you already make.
7. Save for a fantastic retirement
Unfortunately, too many gay men email us as they approach 65 and ask what they can do today to retire tomorrow. So even though it may be 20, 30 or even 40 years away and it seems too far away to think about, you certainly don’t want to be one of them. The good news is that the sooner you start saving and investing for retirement, the less money you will have to save. That’s the magic of compound interest. If you wait too long to get started, when you do start you’ll have to cut out an even larger portion of your current lifestyle, which will likely make it not as fabulous.
Who wants that? No one!
8. Mentor LGBTQ youth
More than 40% of homeless children identify as LGBTQ. This means that there are many children who need a guiding hand to help them make better life decisions. For those who don’t have parents in their life, you can take on this role. Visit your local LGBTQ center to learn about opportunities to help children in need.
9. Support LGBTQ-friendly politicians
We must do more than just vote. It takes money and volunteers to elect the officials who will stand up for and enforce our rights. So find the politicians you and your captain support and support them with your time or money. Knock on doors. collect money. Participate in fundraisers (and bring your friends). #9 is one of the main reasons we’re excited about queer money.
10. Visit the Stonewall Inn in NYC
The Stonewall Inns are the epicenter of the US fight for LGBTQ rights. Thanks to President Barack Obama, it is now also a museum in New York.
Make it a destination for your gay couple to visit. Then enjoy the rest that NYC has to offer.
Travel smart to NYC and save money
1. Use Airbnb instead of a hotel or motel
Unless we have hotel points from a travel rewards card, we almost always use Airbnb. Airbnb usually gives you more bang for your buck, they are less hotel-like (sterile and poorly decorated) and we usually get an Airbnb with a kitchen. We like the kitchen option because we at least prepare our own breakfast and lunch to keep costs down.
2. Use travel rewards cards to earn rewards for future trips
Travel rewards credit cards are a great way to earn miles for future flights or hotel points for future nights. By strategically using travel rewards cards, you can travel more for less. That’s not a slogan. We charge our everyday and travel expenses to our travel rewards credit cards and, most importantly, Pay the balance of each moneyand we have more miles and hotel points to use now.
11. Hold hands while walking down the street
There is a certain level of excitement and love that comes from walking on the street or through a local store holding hands with the man you love. We love holding hands whenever and wherever we can. It’s another way to show our neighbors that our relationships are more than just casual bumps and Grindr. More than that, it’s a way to share a tender moment when we’re having fun or just running errands. Unfortunately, there are too few places in America where a same-sex couple can display this level of nonsexual affection.
If you can’t hold hands with the person you love in your hometown, find out where you can go once a year Move to one of the 25+ gay-friendly cities we’ve found for you in this list.
12. Support LGBTQ businesses and entrepreneurs
LGBTQ spending power in the United States is over $1 trillion, yet too much of our money goes to companies and organizations that do not support our community. Did you know that there are over nine companies in the Fortune 500 that do not have LGBTQ employee protections, companies like Twentieth Century Fox, which produces the films and television shows we have all seen? Let’s spend more of our money in our community and with companies that support us.
13. Leave a legacy for the LGBTQ community
Across the United States, there are hundreds of organizations fighting for our rights every day. Many of them do this on a tight budget. Let’s change that. As a gay couple, set a goal to leave a legacy of promoting LGBTQ rights long after you are both gone. There are creative ways, such as purchasing life insurance, to leave a larger legacy than you might be able to with your own savings and investments. If you want, you can set contingencies for your donations to ensure your money is used as intended.
14. Participate in a local or national LGBTQ march
Whether in your own backyard or in the nation’s capital, there’s always something going on for LGBTQ rights. As a couple, you now enjoy many of the rights that our forefathers, foremothers and trans families fought for for over 50 years. Let us honor their efforts by continuing the marches, advocacy, fundraising, door knocking and phone calls today. March smart, but. It doesn’t help if you jeopardize your financial security while flying around the globe advocating for LGBTQ rights. Here too, hotels are expensive and sterile.
15. Practice monogamy
Some couples have open relationships. Some people like to play with others. It’s all good. But when you set the goal of being monogamous as a gay couple, you learn more about each other and what you both like in a more intimate way. Then it gets exciting!
16. Donate at least 5% of our income to LGBTQ charities
We have heard and read multiple times that gay men donate less than $45 per year to support our queer community. Unfortunately, we can’t find this documented anywhere at the moment, but if it’s even remotely true, it’s concerning. Studies also show that donations are among the lowest leisure expenses in our community, far below spending on travel, dining out and hygiene.
We want things to get better for us and especially for LGBTQ youth. How is that supposed to happen when the organizations that serve us, LGBTQ youth and LGBTQ seniors, don’t have the resources they need? If you are able, a donation of as little as $50 a month can go a long way toward helping these organizations and those in our community who need it most.
17. Have more sex more regularly
Speaking of bumping and grinding, the longer we are together as a gay couple, the more two things happen. First, our sex drive slows down. Second, we’re running out of fun and interesting ways to have sex. As a couple, set a goal to explore more. Whether that means going to the local porn store or buying toys online that will do it for you, do it. The more sex we have together, the closer we are as a couple and that is a goal that every gay couple enjoys.
Getting ready for more sex on a regular basis can be a full-time job for anyone who’s down. Read all our tips for great flooring here.
18. Start an LGBTQ-supporting business
A survey by the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) found that there are over a million queer-owned businesses in the United States. We contribute over $1.7 trillion to the US economy! Join us and the many other queer entrepreneurs and start a business as a couple (we did!) that will support your financial goals or even make you a few extra dollars each month for all the travel you do together want. Plus, if you earn a few extra Benjis, you may have more time and money to help LGBTQ causes and organizations that help our community in so many necessary ways.
19. Find an LGBTQ mentor
There are many ways to grow as an individual and as a couple. One option is to find another queer person or couple who can serve as a mentor You. This mentoring does not have to be structured or formal. It’s about learning from their experiences.
20. Set 1 – 3 money goals
We’ve already told you that gay couples who talk about money together have more sex, but what do you talk about when you’ve set the budget, the bills are paid and your career is going well? Every couple should have at least 1-3 financial goals to work on together. Each of you can have your own money goals and support each other accordingly. But having at least one financial goal that you work on together strengthens your partnership, makes you feel like a team, and gives you a common goal to celebrate.
Such money goals could include saving for a cash vacation to a place new to both of you, starting a business together, or setting and working toward your retirement number (the amount of money you would have saved and invested for retirement). so that you both feel comfortable when you retire).
Financial security – money – is one of the five building blocks to a truly happy, healthy and prosperous gay life. Get your free copy 5 building blocks for a happy gay life Here.
21. Talk about money every month
Since money conversations are a catalyst for more and better sex, make the most of this news. Talk about your money at least monthly. Make sure your bills are paid and your budget is in line.
5 tips for an even more beautiful life together
1. Train better together
While we’re on the topic of more and better sex — oh, and setting worthy goals for gay couples — another ambitious goal is to be healthier, both through diet and exercise. Twenty minutes of cardio 3-5 times per week and 30 minutes of strength training 2-3 times per week will get your blood flowing, train your heart, increase your bone and muscle density, and improve your skin and mental health.
Training together also increases your energy for all the trips and marches you will undertake together.
2. Eat better together
Now for the “Eating better together” part. . . Healthy eating complements everything cardio and strength training does. It improves blood circulation, nourishes your heart, brain blood cells and skin, improves skin tone and mental health, and makes you feel better overall. Most people assume that eating better means spending more money. That is not true. It just requires strategy and skill when it comes to grocery shopping.
3. Talk better to each other
If you don’t know how to communicate properly, no amount of talking will help. Some couples get this naturally. Others fight. If you are currently in the latter group or have had most of your previous relationships, make this your goal as a gay couple. . . talk better to each other.
4. Better serve the queer community together
It feels like every time our community makes progress, there is a politician or party intent on pushing us back.
As we said, this is one of the main reasons we’re so excited about queer money. The more financially secure we are as individuals, the more financially secure we are as a community. The more financially secure we are as a community, the more time and money we have to enforce our rights. Your financial security as a couple and our financial security as a community will make these votes, marches and fundraisers more impactful.
Then maybe one day there won’t be so many LGBTQ children homeless. Simply put, our financial security is our stepping stone to equality. Our community needs more advocates, and you and your gay are the advocates our community needs. You can inspire and encourage more members of our community to follow in your footsteps, helping the movement grow by leaps and bounds.
5. Think better together
Your spiritual practice as a gay couple is just as important as everything listed above. We have had some dark times, and one way to overcome them and be together for two decades is through our spiritual practice. What does that include? We read daily (as best we can), often together; meditate; Magazine; recite individual affirmations; Train and create space to share our deepest feelings.
How to Set Targeted Goals for Gay Couples Using the QUEER Method
Another tool we use to stay focused on our goals as a gay couple is the so-called QUEER method. Most employees are familiar with setting SMART goals. Companies often use this method at the start of a new year and every quarter thereafter to help employees set and advance annual goals that align with company goals.
We have developed a method that is more adaptable and supports the queer community for personal goals. QUEER stands for:
- Qnot detectable
- Uunderstandable
- Exexecutable
- Eexciting
- Relegant
Individuals and couples often fail to make progress because we lack direction. These are our goals for gay couples over 21 to give you and your man some guidance. We suggest that you pick a goal, implement it, master it, and then move on to another goal.
Success is a series of small steps completed over time. Keep it simple and you’ll be surprised at how far you both will get.
