There is a reason why many of us describe our projects as our “babies”. We have spent days, months or even years to promote the idea and breathe life into every sentence.
After this intimate and lonely process, it can be nerve -wracking to ask others for feedback.
Even if we are less invested in a project – e.g. B. a short blog post for a customer -, it can still sting to get criticism.
Although feedback is incredibly valuable, I still find this part of the writing process terrifying whether I write an article for a customer or share my novel with a beta reader.
Most authors have to deal with negative feedback throughout their career, and that’s a good thing! If you hear thoughtful criticism of your work, you can learn to become a better writer – but only if you are receptive to him.
The most important thing first: change your way of thinking
Before you get your next criticism, practice feedback as a gift.
If someone takes the time to read their work and give thoughtful feedback, give them something valuable: their perspective. This perspective can help you see blind spots in your letter and improve your craft.
1. Separate yourself from your letter
One of the most difficult things about receiving criticism is not to take it personally. Remember that feedback on your letter is not feedback to you as a person.
If someone criticizes their work, evaluate the words on the page, not their value as a person or even their overall ability as a writer.
2. Listen actively without defending
If you receive feedback, your first instinct could be to explain why you have made certain decisions or defend your work. Resist this urge.
Instead, listen actively to what the person says. Get notes if necessary. Make it clear that you ask questions to make sure you understand your perspective, but avoid justify your decisions during this first conversation.
3. Filter the feedback appropriately
Not all reviews are created the same. Learn to differentiate between constructive feedback that can help you improve the best ignored criticism.
Constructive feedback is specific, implementable and focuses on work itself. Not helpful criticism is usually vague, personally or based on subjective preferences that do not match your goals.
4. Use criticism as an opportunity
The most successful writers consider criticism to grow as an opportunity. If you receive feedback, ask yourself: “What can I learn from it? How can this help me to become a better writer?”
Even if you do not agree with some feedback, you can usually lose something valuable of it. Look for patterns in criticism that you receive – if several people indicate the same problem, it is likely to be addressed.
Remember
It is an essential ability for every writer to learn to cope with criticism. By changing your way of thinking, separating from your work, actively hearing, filtering the feedback appropriately and using criticism as a learning option, you will not only become more resilient, but also a better writer.
The next time you get feedback on your letter, take a deep breath and remember: This is how you grow. Count the process and watch your letter improve.